Guest post by Claire Adams
Establishing yourself as a parent is challenging, to say the least. You’ve been assigned not only one, but several roles, both pleasant and unpleasant and when you combine them all, the result should be a mutually loving relationship between you and your child.
Piece of cake, isn’t it? Well, not exactly. The trick is to make your child be aware of your unconditional love regardless of the situation. You’ll be forced to be harsh, strict, make tough choices or even make your child cry. They won’t always appreciate it at first, but if you do your job right, in time, they’ll know that what you did for them was for their own good.
Your child can learn about connections from a very early age. You should do your best to show love to your kid since the very beginning, as well as encourage other family members to do the same. Children learn based on a model of behaviour, which is why your relationship with other family members matters as well in the upbringing of your own child. Teach your kids how to give love and accept it, make them open to it and not ashamed of it. Love is the most important thing in the world, so teach your children to embrace it.
Praise good things
The reward and punishment principle is also a very popular and effective parenting method. It’s very simple – reward your child when they do something well. Whether it’s a physical reward or verbal praise, make sure to let your child know that they’ve done something well. The same goes for punishments. When you notice undesired behaviour from your child, assign them some punishment, either by scolding or even depriving some privileges. In time, the child will repeat actions that were praised and eliminate unwanted behaviour due to the negative feedback.
Invest in education
A very important aspect of your child’s upbringing is education. Where to start? Well, financials are always a good place to begin since, in order to secure a quality education for your kids, you need to be ready to spend a lot of money. This is why most parents set up college funds as soon as their children are born. Tuition fees are one thing, but certainly not the only one. There are extracurricular activities such as learning another language, playing an instrument, singing, sports, etc. Not to mention the need to revise on the most important subjects for your children’s future – maths and English. Most parents are signing their kids up for tutoring services in London, where children have the opportunity to revise, as well as learn new things.
Allow success and failure
We all want our kids to be happy. Unfortunately, this is not always possible, or healthy, for that matter. Regardless of whether or not we can predict some events in our children’s lives, sometimes we just need to let them hit a brick wall and fail miserably. This is truly important in order for them to learn about failure and how to act after one occurs. It is a way to prepare your children for the life that awaits them and, as cruel as it may seem, it is inevitably good for them in the end.
Give real responsibilities
Another thing you need to be careful about is not to spoil your child too much. Yes, you want them to have everything and not have to suffer whatsoever. However, it’s not always going to be like that for them and they need to learn. That is why kids need responsibilities. These responsibilities should be rational and easily achievable as their purpose is merely to teach your kids about obligations.
All in all, it’s hard out there for a parent. However, when you try your best and give yourself completely, you are bound to get good results. Keep your head up high and do your best to raise your kids to become good people. There’s no greater happiness than being proud of your children.
Guest post by Claire Adams
I am delighted to share with you a guest post from the brilliant Claire Adams. Claire is personal and professional development expert who believes that a positive attitude is one of the keys to success. You can find her online writing and giving tips about lifestyle and development as a regular contributor at highstylife.com.